After watching Diane Sawyer’s 20/2o interview with Rihanna this past Friday, and then reading an irate citizen’s response to the pop singer's answers, I feel the need to offer some clarity in hopes to, if feasible, enlighten the bull that unleashed his horns to pierce the character of the Roc Nation Princess. First and foremost, in response to him implying, as many have within their private groups (and you know who you are) that Rihanna is by no means innocent in the violent experience, and that she must have played a significant role that could excuse the mind-boggling violence that happened to her on that infamous Grammy Award Night by her convicted assailant, Chris Brown, I found myself holding my breath and waiting for some sense between the lines to rescue me. As the blogger went on by accusing Rihanna of somehow being "wrong" for claiming that she felt ashamed for loving Chris, and is now less of a woman for she, like every human, is a reflection of one’s love interest, the initial thing that came to my mind is… "uhmmmm. A mind is a terrible thing to waste.”
I wonder what significant role could an unarmed lady, barely weighing over a hundred pounds and confined to a passenger seat, play to excuse the madness that was plastered all over her face. Even if it was something she said, (something beyond the confession she gave Sawyer, which described her finding another woman’s message left in Chris' cell phone and then nagging him about it with every intention to confirm her suspicions of him being involved in an affair) could it have been worth this?
For those who may have missed the 20/20 interview, and only caught the recap of Rihanna’s emotional side of the tragic incident on the audio on this website, you may recall that Rihanna made a reference to feeling ashamed of whom she fell in love with. The irate blogger, to whom provoked this letter, obviously took that statement and ran a marathon with it. Later calling her “Wrong” for the way she felt. Clarity: Dear Blogger,
I doubt it seriously that when Rihanna made that comment she was stating that she felt ashamed of loving Chris, the full individual. It is my belief that she was simply labeling her shame on the "Domestic Abuser," or rather that part of the man that had hurt her so severely. In addition, when you stated, "Who you chose is a reflection of yourself," I got this eerie feeling that you are unaware that most individuals, like onions, have many layers. In a relationship, one initially sees the surface, which may pull them in. As one becomes infatuated with the other, more layers peel, which may make them attached. Finally, when you get to love, perhaps that last layer, a person may see something that burns their eyes. What are they to do then but cry? If love is present, real love, it isn't that easy to walk away from. So when you wrote that who a person chooses is a reflection of him/her, I immediately began wondering if you sincerely believe that all of a person is constantly revealed for one to see, let alone reflect. In addition, I'm curious to know if you are concrete in the notion that a domestic abuser, when he/she’s in perfect control of his/her emotions, cannot be the most loving or charming person? Are you convinced that an attacker, when he/she isn't at a boiling point, can’t be considerate and treat a love interest like an angel? If some part of you can recognize the frailty in your statements, maybe now you can invision how Rihanna fell in love Chris, and not the monster within him.
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